The Golfer’s Perfect Spouse

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I got really lucky in the spouse department.  Rebecca and I have been together 22 years.  And although I tease her that they’ve been the best 6 years of my life, all 22 have been wonderful.

Rebecca’s not athletic – au contraire.   Her favorite statement, which she says proudly, is “I don’t do anything with balls involved.”  In fact, she’s so non-athletic she’s like Einstein’s “antimatter”.  Antimatter isn’t the lack of matter, and it’s not a vacuum, it’s ANTI-matter.  Rebecca isn’t just not an athlete, she’s the ANTI-athlete.  Stand too close to her and you won’t be able to putt.

So what makes Rebecca the golfer’s perfect spouse?  Simply put, she considers my passion for golf to be a good thing.  I’ve heard other golfer’s spouses say “you’re addicted to golf” or “you’re obsessed […]

The Golfer’s Perfect Spouse2019-04-28T10:24:44-04:00

This is What I’m Talking About!

Roberta VinciIf you read my blog post titled Then Vs. Now, you know I miss the lack of spontaneity, authenticity and even enjoyment shown by today’s professional golfers.  Did you happen to catch Roberta Vinci beating Serena Williams today?  I know that was a tennis match and this is a golf blog, but Vinci’s post-match interview was everything I love about sports and athletes.  http://espn.go.com/

Serena Williams was on a path to make tennis history and seemed unbeatable.  Then Roberta Vinci, not even ranked and against all odds, beat her.

The victory itself was incredible, but the way Vinci dealt with it was just as impressive.   I can’t remember seeing as much pure joy, spontaneity and authenticity in an athlete as I did today.

First off, she said the unthinkable.  She apologized.  Yes, you read that right, SHE APOLOGIZED.  She actually had the sensitivity […]

This is What I’m Talking About!2019-04-28T11:24:09-04:00

Tribute to Dad

Mom and dad at the Mets gameThis Sunday will be my first Father’s Day without my dad.

Throughout my childhood, playing and watching sports was the way I connected with my dad.  Maybe that’s why all 50 times I’ve watched the last scene of Field of Dreams, I’ve cried when Kevin Costner says “Hey dad, want to have a catch?”

When I was six years old – this is 1963 — I asked my dad why we rooted for the Mets instead of the Yankees.    The Mets were abysmal while the Yankees were a legend, and it seemed everyone else rooted for the “right” team.  How could we be so wrong?  My father’s answer:  “Because, dear, we root for the underdogs.”

Look, there’s nothing wrong with rooting for winners… if the Mets ever became perennial winners, I’d be ecstatic.  But there’s something special about […]

Tribute to Dad2019-04-28T10:29:40-04:00

I’m Not Kicking the Bucket Bucket List – Torrey Pines

Torrey PinesI’ve had a golf course Bucket List for 15 years… and over the past year, amazingly enough,  I’ve played all top four courses on it.  God, pay no attention to this, I’m not ready to kick the bucket.

Rebecca said, “Do you want to go to San Diego to play one of your bucket list courses, Torrey Pines?”  Actually, what she said was, “I have a conference in San Diego.”  Interesting how my hearing can do that sometimes.

So, off to San Diego I went to play Torrey… er, I mean keep Rebecca company on her trip.  Unbelievably, her conference was at the Hilton La Jolla Torrey Pines!  Helloooooo serendipity.

I played 5 rounds in 3 days and it was even more beautiful than I’d dreamed:  the Pacific Ocean, seaside cliffs and most of all, the pines.   Torrey Pines are the rarest pine […]

I’m Not Kicking the Bucket Bucket List – Torrey Pines2019-04-28T10:42:38-04:00

Are We Sure Winning Is the ONLY Thing?

Vince LombardiIf you’ve read my other blog posts, you know my dad taught me that “It’s not if you win or lose, it’s how you play the game.” In fact, that was the sports mantra of my youth.   But when Vince Lombardi said, “Winning isn’t everything, it’s the only thing,” sportsmanship took a backseat.

I just played in one of the most enjoyable, competitive matches of my life because sportsmanship came first. And generosity of spirit was a close second.

It was during a 4-day, 6-round “Ryder Cup” type tournament with 16 very competitive friends – 8 per team.  In the final day’s singles match, I drew a woman whose nickname is Patti “Putts”. Yup, she’s such a good putter that her nickname is “Putts”. I have the same nickname…mine is spelled with a Z.

I usually start out a match by […]

Are We Sure Winning Is the ONLY Thing?2019-04-28T15:31:58-04:00

The Confrontation

If you read my blogpost “Butch,” you know that Butch is one of my favorite friends.  He’s a good golfer and just an all-around great guy.  And, unlike yours truly, he ALWAYS keeps his composure.  Also important to this story:  Butch is 6’2” and former military.

Last week, we were on a short par 4.  After the group in front of us (a twosome – one in his 50’s, one a rather short man of about 75) got onto the green, Butch teed off.  Ooops, the hole was a lot shorter than Butch thought because when he striped his tee shot, it rolled onto the green.

It was a mistake for which Butch wanted to apologize, but the 75 year-old went into a rage.  SOM (Scary Old Man), started waving his arms frantically and screaming at us.  Then he ran (as fast as a […]

The Confrontation2019-04-28T13:45:49-04:00

Prejudice:  Golf Once Again Proves It’s a Microcosm of Life. 

Prejudice2My friend Bill and I were paired with two strangers on The Red Course at Bethpage.  The round was excruciatingly slow.  When we got to the 8th green, we could see the group on the 11th tee box had 4 – yes, you read that right, 4 – holes open in front of them.  And the group behind them wasn’t pushing them, so we knew they were just as slow.

Joe, one of the strangers we were paired with, said, “It’s the Koreans that make golf so slow.”  I asked, “What Koreans?”  He said, “It’s always the Koreans”.   I said, pointing to the group on the 11th tee box, “But those are 4 white guys”.  Then I added, pointing to the second slow group “And those are 4 white guys.”

But he wouldn’t give up.  In fact, he got testy and shot back, […]

Prejudice:  Golf Once Again Proves It’s a Microcosm of Life. 2019-04-28T15:05:13-04:00

Marco Rubio Needs a Golf Lesson

RubioMarco Rubio lost to Donald Trump in the last set of primaries and dropped out of the Presidential race.  Why? Because he broke the Cardinal Rule of Golf.

I know this rule well.  As a shorter hitter, I’m constantly being out-driven by my competitors.   Being out-driven puts me at a disadvantage, but I can still compete if I stick with my strengths… get it close, chip and putt.  But I don’t stand a chance if I try to outdrive longer hitters.  All it does is take me out of my game – and increase my frustration every time someone outdrives me by 40 yards!  The Cardinal Rule of Golf is stay within your game.

In my analogy, Rubio is the short-hitter, Trump the long-hitter.  Trump is the best at swatting away barbs and making sure the ones he throws land.   […]

Marco Rubio Needs a Golf Lesson2019-04-28T15:15:47-04:00

War on the Bethpage Black Course

gladiatorsIf you’ve played the Black Course at Bethpage, you know it can take a long time.  When there are slow players in front of you, it can be agonizing.

Jim, Bill, Greg and I were in this agonized state when, after 5 hours, we were only on the 15th hole.  The slow foursome was two groups in front of us.  Jim had already yelled out at them on the 10th hole to play faster, but they had ignored him.

Let me make sure I’m setting up this war story clearly:  They’re the bad guys, we’re the good guys.

The 15th hole goes due north.  The 16th hole comes back due south right alongside the 15th.  Because this group was so slow, we were passing them where the two holes come very close together.

Jim yelled out again, “You guys are holding up the whole course, pick […]

War on the Bethpage Black Course2019-04-28T15:25:27-04:00

Imelda Marcos Ellis

ShoesforImeldaMarcosEllistapI’m a fashion statement.   Unfortunately, the statement is:  “Patty, what the heck are you wearing?”

If there’s a chromosome for loving fashion and clothes, I didn’t get it.   I have no talent or fashion sense, I have no idea how colors go together, and I’d rather put pins in my eyes than go clothes shopping.

Except for golf shoes!  I just love golf shoes.  And not just any golf shoes – golf shoes on sale.  Oooh, just saying “golf shoes” and “sale” in the same sentence gives me the warm fuzzies.

One year I bought 4 pair on vacation in Myrtle Beach, then just three weeks later bought another 4 pair on sale in Boca.  I saw one pair (only $49.99) that I couldn’t decide if I loved or hated, so I asked the store-clerk what she thought.  She said she hated […]

Imelda Marcos Ellis2019-04-28T15:36:42-04:00