“Friendly” Matches

RecoloredCroppedThey’re called “friendly” matches but they’re not always so friendly.

I was playing a match with Barbara as my teammate against Beth and Ann.  It was all square (tied) until I won the 4th hole by shooting a 5 when they all shot sixes.  But Beth said she shot a 5, too.

Uh oh – there was no question she shot a 6.

In the most non-confrontational way I could muster, I asked, “Beth, are you sure you shot a 5?”    Apparently, she didn’t like being second-guessed.  “Yes”, she fired back.  “I shot a 5!”

CROSSROADS!   Do I let it go or do I pursue it?

Maybe you’re like me – I have two little people who stand, one on each shoulder, telling me what to do:

Left-shoulder guyYou won the hole fair and square, Patty, don’t let her intimidate you.

Right-shoulder guy:   It doesn’t mean you’re being intimidated if you let it go.  Being kind is more important than being right.

LSG:  Oh that’s such drivel.  Being right matters.  Stand up for yourself.

RSG:  Compassion and serenity are what you’re striving for.  Let it go.

LSG:  Wimp.

RSGYou’ll be the bigger person.

LSG:   You’ll be the bigger wimp.

RSG:   Patty, grow.

LSG:   Patty, grow some!

“Beth, remember, you drove it in the fairway, your second shot was left of the green, then you flubbed a chip, then chipped onto the green, then you two-putted.   I think it was a six.”

Her face got red… “FINE!” she huffed while storming off to the next tee.

After the next hole her partner asked her what she scored and she said as loudly as she could “Why don’t you just ask Patty?”

Left Shoulder guy:  Tell her she’s an …..



  1. gahnyc May 11, 2015 at 4:43 pm - Reply

    Great (and funny!!) read! Keep them coming …

  2. Adrian May 11, 2015 at 4:44 pm - Reply

    Love your blog. I’ll be sure to let my friends know about it.

  3. Matt May 11, 2015 at 4:53 pm - Reply

    I”m not even a golfer and I found this post funny!!

  4. Sean May 11, 2015 at 7:13 pm - Reply

    “Friendly” matches do NOT include waiving the rules of golf. There’s a standard we all should be held to including the “upset” post double friend. What if she decided to take a mulligan? Let that go? But….that being said…..maybe you coulda waiting 10 mins to let her cool down? Never good to immediately approach a “post double” friend. Lol. Ah the innards of golf!!!!! Love the blog kiddo. Keep me comin

  5. Lori May 11, 2015 at 8:05 pm - Reply

    PURSUE! Don’t sign the score card, and call Patrice or Janet . . . LOL!

  6. AB May 11, 2015 at 8:36 pm - Reply

    “Friendly”matches??? Hmm, not sure what those are! Play to WIN!!!! 🙂 She earned a 6… I would’ve stayed on her about it! And, next time, count every one of her strokes out loud so that there is no mistake!!! “Okay, Beth, that was your first shot. Great shot, Beth – that was number 2!” (etc.) LOL.. make it a joke, but still a point! 😉

  7. Michael May 11, 2015 at 9:27 pm - Reply

    As always another PE excellente…..
    I think the angel and devil, should have been on the “6” shooter……………mb

  8. DENNIS May 11, 2015 at 10:07 pm - Reply

    Loved the blog, I’ve been at that crossroad myself- always listen to the guy on the left!

  9. Toni Robinson May 11, 2015 at 11:00 pm - Reply

    The rules of golf are there for all of us. If you don’t follow them then you should not play competitively. No one likes to be wrong about their score thus the curt response. All that being said you should definitely remind your opponent if they have misstated their score. I have done it, albeit in total innocence, because I blocked that “lousy chip that I flubbed” Once reminded I was grateful for the help. It is uncomfortable for all concerned but she will be more accurate from now on. TJ

  10. John May 11, 2015 at 11:38 pm - Reply

    I never play by the Rules. Why should it matter?


  11. Bruce Saul May 12, 2015 at 2:13 pm - Reply

    Funny and entertaining trip thru the round robin of human emotions! But hey it’s a SPORT ! If there were no competitive scuffle it would be no fun! LSG and RSG share one thing in common : conflict resolution , and its all good …Keep those boxing gloves on , and sometimes carry a small stick! Great Blog so far…:))

  12. Chandra May 12, 2015 at 4:02 pm - Reply

    Love it! That’s the Pattie I know

  13. David Marshall May 12, 2015 at 9:04 pm - Reply

    Golf is a unique sport. Those of you who view it as funny probably haven’t experienced it. It’s more real than we all want to admit. Golf is a sport that demands honesty and self penalties. We have witnessed major tournaments that were lost because of self enforcement of what may be deemed a silly rule.
    In other sports, for example fouls in basketball, are very often followed by cries of denial, “I didn’t do it”, or faulty line calls in tennis.
    Being ladies and gentlemen is one of the reasons those of us respect golf, love golf.

  14. Ann May 15, 2015 at 11:52 pm - Reply

    Way to go Patty! Funny, smart and so you!

  15. Robyn May 18, 2015 at 9:25 pm - Reply

    Jerk? Is that the word you are looking for?:)
    Don’t play with that jerk again. There are nicer assholes in this world!!!

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